I know this line of thinking has baffled alot of people. At some point i was one of them but getting older is a pretty amazing thing, especially when you can look at a situation and have not an "opinion" but "PERSPECTIVES".
Someone asked a question ..."why do beautiful girls date ugly men?" or vice versa.
***personally i believe we are all beautiful, some of us just need a second glance or third to be convinced..thats all***
But yes... why do you and i make a physical characteristic our sole basis of segmentation? Are we still soo far down the wisdom ladder that we still cant get passed what we see and make it up to how we feel, what we know and eventually what is right?
History has thought us that not all that glitters is gold. Wisemen have emphasized how we should never judge a book by its cover. Even laymen tell you, beauty is in the eye of the beholder... The one thing all these people have in common is the right "Perspective".
When you ask questions like "she's so ugly, how did she land a guy like that"? ..i'm forced to ask .. Does beauty make you a lovable person? Does beauty make you tolerable? Does beauty put you above the law? Does beauty have any effect on your bank account?....Hold Up...i guess in some cases it does....Lol...My bad .... rewind...........Does beauty make you lovable???????
People search for deeper connections. Similarities, characteristics that keep you intrigued and baffled, personal attributes that make you lovable, emotions that make you wonderful. beauty is on only skin deep. Your beauty doesn't affect what i look like. Waking up to a beautiful person doesnt automatically alter your appearance and make you gorgeous. What ever you possess in the looks department is YOURS to keep, use, utilize and eventually watch diminish. Does it make any sense to use the possession of a ruler as a gauge to who is great at math?
Looking forward to seeing something beautiful is something that keeps us going sometimes.But beauty isnt all there is!.
The term "Ugly" is a societal imposition that dictates what is generally acceptable as "beautiful" and what is not... People who have been branded "ugly" or "not so pretty" i believe have reached a level of self-consciousness that so-called "beautiful people may never attain.
They know what it feels like to be judged by their cover, which makes them humble not judgemental
They know what it feels like to not fit in; which makes them care givers and nurturers who are determined to make sure people never feel the way they've been made to feel especially when around them.
They know what it feels like to really and truly be loved ...why? Because when everyone says "you're ugly" and one person in the midst of it all..... says "you're beautiful"...you dont doubt that they mean it.
Beautiful people to me get the shorter end of the stick. Your good lucks attract all kinds. You go in and out of relationships because well...beauty attracts but it doesnt keep people interested. you always second guess love and trust because you dont know if you're loved because you're hot, beautiful or sexy or if people do really like who you are underneath it all.
i'd tell you why so called "ugly people" snag the good looking ones. It's because they have "the right perspective". they dont take relationships for granted because they do not know how many more trials they have at it. They dont take people for granted because it takes a really special person to look beyond the physical and straight into internal. you never feel judged because they are too busy loving you and caring about you. You're not beautiful to them because you have perfect skin, tone and chisled abs.....you're beautiful to them because YOU recognized the beauty in them ....
I understand that not all ugly people are peaches and cream on the inside too but loving someone should never be about what you see to be a "flaw" ... Loving someone is about feeling like you can see yourself in their eyes and you're gorgeous... Loving someone is about feeling like you've found your doppleganger, your exact replica or mirror image in another.....its about knowing how to dwell on the positives and watch the negatives fade into the background. Its about being free to be you in all your element ..ugly or beautiful...who cares...when you close your eyes and night and wake up in the morning, YOU'RE STILL YOU ......
Being loved transcends all physical consciousness. If you cant see that ... you can keep sittin on that park bench watching and tallying the number of "mismatched" couples you see....while those couples are busy enjoying love, friendship and a sense of belonging in the arms of someone who CLEARLY loves them for all it is that they are ....
