What We Crave Most in Life is a .....

Don't you wonder why chatting with someone always makes you feel somewhat better? Even if they didn't help you in anyway?...it's because just by nodding, they present you with a sense of understanding, a sense of empathy and regardless of all the clues present, your mind just accepts that its being understood. That's a thought connection.


Whether it's a family connection, work connection, friendship connection, personal connection, mental connection or emotional connection, we all seem to grasp for a sense of belonging, knowing that we are not alone in thoughts, words, minds, emotions, deeds and ideologies.

With a friendship connection, we just love the fact that we are accepted. People chose you to be a friend, think you are funny, love your sense of humor or are genuinely perplexed by how your mind works...either ways, you got people to share a laugh with, who share common interests with you and who would have your back or stand up for you when other people try to put you down. Let's call it a comrade connection.

Then you've got a family connection. Because we dont choose our families, we are just sorta born into it, you rarely find the right blend of shared interests, characteristics or opinions. This makes it a little hard to feel that connection to your family members. Just like i've heard it said countless times  by siblings "i have no choice but to love you"..:)..funny eh ! But quite true.

...Emotional connections and mental connections are very much interlinked. Often, one feeds the other. It's the most symbiotic of all connections but the most tricky. You see, i've come to realise both by my own actions and watching others that the mind and the heart do walk hand in hand. You feel, because you feel, your mind accepts, because your mind accepts, your thoughts and actions follow. You see something or someone you want. You already feel a connection and just the way nature intends it, you pursue in the hopes of gaining a better understanding about what you are feeling connected (attracted) to.

You wonder sometimes, why is it that we can never say the things we want to, to the people we want to say them to, at the times we want to say them and with the level of honesty that such a confession or declaration deserves?

When you feel connected to anyone, on the plus side, you feel lighter, like you dont have to face life alone and that you have someone you can share your life and thoughts with (friendship or relationship). On the flip side, when you feel even remotely connected to someone emotionally, your protection efforts double. You dont want to wreck a good friendship by declaring your emotions. You dont want to seem foolish incase the emotions are one-sided. You forget that everything in life comes with a risk factor. The higher the stakes, the more difficult the decision.

Someone might say, c'mon Kicki, you're being too dramatic on this one.....NOOOOOOO. Lol... You see with matters of the heart,  you only truly live once and both your mind and heart know this. You dont get back your innocence, you dont get back your openness, you dont get back your 100% confidence and you most certainly never get back your !00% trust quota assuming someone (anyone) messes with your emotions and leaves you scarred.

The thing about connections is sometimes when you understand why it exists, the dynamics behind why it thrives and why you would or would rather not do without it, you either embrace it, love it, live it or suck the life out of it and then abandon it.

I've grown to appreciate the need for connections. I understand why i need to feel connected to different people on different levels. It says alot about who you are. Shows how open or closed you are, mentally, emotionally, physically and intellectually.

• I want to feel connected intellectually because that's how information gets exchanged and you broaden your horizons.
• I want to feel connected mentally because i need to see to flaws in my thinking and how its breaking or maybe making me into a better or worse version of myself.
• I want to be connected emotionally because thats how God built me. I've got lots of love to give, it does me no good keeping it to myself but means the world to me when i get even a fraction of it in return. 
• I want to feel connected physically because well....*lets go with the description of it being an ego booster*
• I want to feel connected spiritually because it centres me. It makes me look up and respond to a higher call, understanding why i was formed and what each gift and talent i have been given is to be used for.

Without connections we would never know our potentials, 

we would never feel valued,
we would never know where we belong,

we would never know that we are 'never' alone,

we would never learn to love and accept being loved in return

What we crave Most in Life is...............A CONNECTION !!!