Sunday 16 January 2011

Cold heartedness or Cowardice ?


i was taking off my socks this evening when i had this random thought about why people are labelled "cold-hearted" within the context of relationships...and for some reason, it struck me as something that was of  potential interest..

Cold hearted is usually used to refer to someone who is devoid of feelings....but the more the i think about it, the more i am convinced it's about the opposite.  Call it a screensaver if you wish but i am strongly under the impression that people who often appear as unfeeling or un-empathetic are hiding alot more than their emotions.

Fear of being hurt, fear of being rejected, fear of giving too much and being taken for granted, fear of the unknown, general insecurities about not thinking you're a likeable person.......................or basic belief that if you portray yourself to be unlikeable then you're in control of your rejection....as opposed to showing who you really are and being rejected anyways.

I really dont think people are born devoid of emotions. People evolve that way as a result of circumstances: Abusive parents, getting bullied at school, being rejected by females or males you like, friends who steal people you like, never getting what you want, having what you want always taken by someone else...........there are a bunch of things that make people close up emotionally.

To the best of knowledge, thats not being cold-hearted...it's more like hiding behind being cold-hearted....an emotional screen saver! Maybe a real cold hearted person is someone who is so incontrol of their emotions that they choose who to let in and who to leave out....more often leaving people out by choice rather than protocol. Look out for those guys.....they are the ones who needs some serious defrosting!


Maybe next time you see someone acting all cold-hearted and  ish, you should just give them a big old hug!........ It may or may not help but as long as you dont go home with a big old black-eye, it's all good !.>>>LOL