HOW DEEP IS YOUR LOVE FOR ME?

i was watching the movie "The Ledge" and i began to wonder, How does a wife justify having 2 children with her husbands younger brother because she found out he was infertile (told him his results were okay) ... and says "she knew how badly he wanted kids and she wanted to give him that ...but she also wanted them to look as close to him as possible (hence the brother)" ... Now i ask, IS THIS LOVE ... sacrificial love perhaps or just plain old -wear-your-head-backwards-stupidity-masked-as-common-sense?

My thoughts began to race as i discovered beyond his anger, surely he can see method in her madness, he must see that LOVE seemt to have been her only motivation (atleast the script didnt say otherwise).

BUT I SERIOUSLY WONDER, IS IT LOVE? Sacrificial love perhaps that would make a woman make such a decision all on her own, thinking, she was doing them both a favor? Is he happier knowing he cant father a child but has 2 children anyways? I fail to see the good but i struggle to call it bad too. 

She wants to give her husband something she desperately thinks he wants but she fails to put into consideration the variable nature of the human mind. He wants something she perceives to be ultimate ... but thats him thinking he can have it so he's chasing it. when evidence is provided to support him not being able to get it, temporary disappointment would set in and then as usual LIFE GOES ON.

i honestly believe her solution although carried out from a mindset of love, had a lot of holes. she should have made it ... HIS Decision... then it could be THEIR decision. What is he suppose to see everytime he looks at them kids? what is he going to see everytime he looks at her? heck what is he suppose to say to his brother who possibly was under the same notion that he was doing something good?

i think the moral of this story is NEVER THINK FOR SOMEONE ELSE. You yourself are variable enough as it is, why make someone elses wants and needs a FIXTURE? Married or not, your life is still your life and decisions affecting it should be respected as such