SEASONS

i was having a discussion with my brother just a couple hours ago and it was amazing to discover that most of the friends we have, we've known for about 14 years. You look back and you wonder....how in the world did time pass by so quickly and why on earth has this person not run me down with his/her car... :)

And you begin to travel down memory lane. You try to discover just when it was you met his friend. what were you doing? Did you like them? if not, when did all that change? How many different directions did life pull you and how did you manage to stay close. Was it something about you or was it something them?

What really determines a friendship? is it the fact that you see each other everyday and have established a co-existence out of habit? Or is it that we unconsciously have secret things we admire about each one of our friends that we keep them around for just so some of it could rub off on us overtime? abit of both maybe???

In every human being, we are taught to appreciate things about them. Everyone brings something unique to every table. As a matter of fact, its definitely possible that even in the negative, there's a positive to be learnt or gained. aahhhhhhhh......that has set of a whole mental process lol....

A very wise person (i say 'person' because i honestly cant remember who said it....LOL>>>dont laugh...i know you do the same :) ).................a very wise person once said "true friendship doesnt need the life support of everyday phone calls and hangouts to be true......a true friendship exists when even a few years could pass but when you meet or talk, its just like you only missed a day or 2. I initially didn't quite agree with that. I always figured true friendship is the ability to share your everyday life with the person or people and for them to know all the details so when you're making a joke out of it much later, everyone knows whats up.

i guess age kinda humbles your thinking after a while because sometimes its really not about the little details but about the big picture. Would they be there for you when you need them? Would they catch you if you fell? could you trust them with one or all of your priced possessions? have they contributed to your growth as an individual in anyway? can you vouch for them and would they vouch for you? ofcourse all these questions apply both ways in testing the viability if 'your' friendship as well.

some people are only in your life for a season (Madea). They come in because their strengths or weaknesses are suppose to help you or help them in some way. vice versa. But they are those good old faithfuls / reliables that fit into whatever weather. they are there when you need them, absent if you dont, reliable regardless and would always be there if and when you needed them.

ofcourse friendship is not all about what you can get...but i'd be lying if i said its not part of it. friendship is a silent exchange agreement. You give and you gain. Thats why i dont call people friends lightly. it's an important title to me. it's important that i chose my friends wisely and its an honor to be chosen as a friend by someone.

i have actually been blessed with some of the best friends in the world. i never saw it coming but there it is. Writing this note has actually woken up the urge to let these special people know that they matter to me.